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I’m a mom. I have seven kids. When I wake up, the boys are already up and already tearing up the house. They may be coloring on the walls, inventing new breakfast ideas with the toaster, taking tools out of the junk drawer to disassemble furniture in their bedroom, or feeding (ahem, poisoning) the fish. If I try to wake up earlier and beat them to the punch, they just wake up earlier. There is no beating them.
All that to say, that being a mom is hard. It is non-stop crazy. It requires work, creativity, energy, self-control, patience, intelligence, discipline, and so much more. And sometimes we moms burn out.
I know that for me, life moves so fast that by the time I realize I am reaching my limit, I am already exceeding it. That is when, unfortunately, I am likely to blow. However, it doesn’t have to be that way! If only I could catch myself earlier and re-set my mind before I blow — that would be nice.
The thing is we can take those mini-moments and re-set so that we can better address our children’s needs, wants, demands, poor choices with good choices of our own. So here are 11 Things Moms Can Do to Re-Set Their Moods!
- Turn on the Tunes! That’s right! It’s easy and it only takes a moment to grab your smartphone and turn on some music you love or to put on a CD that calms the whole house. Worship music always works for me, and it immediately changes the whole tone of the house.
- Stop and Pray. I can’t tell you how many times a day I stop and just say, “Lord, Help me!” Maybe that is all the time I have, or maybe I can hide inside the pantry for a brief moment and pray for peace of mind, for God’s strength, or for His peace to dwell in me.
- Go Outside. As long as the weather permits, getting outside with your kids is a great way to reset. I don’t know if it’s the fresh air or just the change of scenery, but it can change the mood of the whole family almost instantly. Consider picnics, hikes, kicking a ball, or just sitting on the deck as easy options.
- Make Tea (or Cocoa). I tend to reserve cocoa for special occasions due to the sugar content adding extra crazy to my kids, but having all the kids sit down with a cup of tea can instantly calm them and me, even if just for a few minutes. This is one of my favorite teas for the kids.
- Ask for help. Maybe you have an older child who can play with your kids for a few minutes, maybe its a neighbor, a grandparent or your spouse. Even just asking for help can restore hope and relieve the pressure in the heat of it all.
- Put a Movie On. I know this isn’t the ideal answer when you try to restrict screen time in your family, but sometimes putting on a movie or a short show is all it takes to get the kids to sit down and calm down, and provide you with 30 minutes of peace. A little screen time is better than mama scream time.
- Deep Breaths. There is actual science behind deep breathing, so aside from the fact that it seems trivial, it’s easy and you can try it anywhere. Just take a few seconds, breath in through your nose on a slow count to five and exhale from your mouth on the same slow count to five. Repeat as needed.
- Happy Hand Lotion. Got a favorite calming scent? Pick a lovely scented hand lotion and when things get overwhelming rub it on your hands, forearms, elbows and stop and smell them for a moment. The right scent can have a real calming effect on everyone around. This is my favorite. I love knowing it doesn’t contain any yucky ingredients and the smell is fabulous, like an orange creamsicle.
- Aromatherapy. I realize not everyone buys into Essential Oils, but certain scents can have a very calming effect as I have personally seen with my boys. Lavender is known for being a relaxing scent. Vetiver can help improve focus and calm. Ylang Ylang, Chamomile, and Jasmine all have very calming effects. I even use Frankincense as a stress reliever for them. Give it a try!
- Chewing Gum. Pop a piece of gum in your mouth, but make sure it’s Spearmint, which has a natural calming effect on your mood, and aim for a natural brand like this one, so you avoid all those unhealthy ingredients.
- Play. It’s not always relaxing to play with your kids, but depending on the type of play, it can be quite calming. Playdough, coloring, or even matchbox cars can all have a very focusing effect, which also calms you.
Now granted, it’s important to re-set without your kids too, but each of these ideas can be incorporated into your day with your children. Now, instead of dreaming for that mom’s night out that seems oh, so far away, you can do something now, feel better, and re-set for yourself, your spouse, and your kids.
What do you do to reset when you’re having a bad day?